May I share a short story about business life?
I have had a small software business since 1996. At times, I have employed about 15 people, but mostly, it’s just been me and handful of others.
My gigs have always been contract, hourly gigs, and long-term deals. This is good, because I don’t have a lot of expense devoted to finding new gigs. It’s bad, because getting paid hourly can leave money on the table. But I have earned a good rate, and I’m not displeased with my current state of affairs.
One lesson that I have learned is this: Clients are always wary of contractors, and they are usually seeking to get rid of them, in favor of full-time “permanent” (lol!) employees.
So the deal, I think, is this: If you can solve 3 – 5 times the number of problems you create in a relationship, you can stay. If you create more problems than you solve, it’s only a matter of time until you’re gone.
This applies to business relationships, of course, but also to personal relationships. If you find you are constantly fighting or otherwise in conflict with someone you value, you must find ways to deliver value. If you cannot, then you by definition a net cost, and you will eventually be shown the door.
Bottom line: To flourish, you must be a net problem solver, not a net problem creator. That’s my take.
Interested in your thoughts, if you wish to share them.